What it’s Like to Be Pregnant and Judged

Anyone wondering what it feels like to be pregnant and judged needs to look no further than model Chrissy Teigen’s Instagram account.

Cap'n Pebbles cravings, nightly - Chrissy Teigen on Instagram
Cap’n Pebbles cravings, nightly – Chrissy Teigen on Instagram

Last week, the mom-to-be posted what she thought was a harmless photo of her nightly pregnancy craving: a mixture of Cap’n Crunch and Fruity Pebbles. Within minutes, she was pelted with judgmental comments masked as well-meaning.

“If you love your child, please eat healthy food as you can,” wrote one user. “Don’t feed your baby that dyed crap,” wrote another.

Most women who are or have been pregnant go through a period of desiring less-than-healthful foods, especially when nausea is a factor. Typically those women embrace whatever sounds good and is kind enough to stay down.

What most women probably don’t do is rebel against the judgement. Well, Teigen isn’t most women. She didn’t simply respond to those who personally judged her, she Tweeted out to her 1 million followers exactly what she (and every pregnant woman who has been judged for this exact thing) felt.

“If you wanna give me unsolicited baby advice on the damn cereal I eat/what I wear u better unlock your profile so I can see your perfection,” she wrote. “yes I am living off dyed food. tuna too!! Gonna try to dye my tuna actually. Then have an icy, dyed vodka soda and that’s just lunch.

“Then I’m gonna ****** take the trapeze class I’ve been meaning to take. Then maybe do a 3 legged race then probably rent sumo suits and battle strangers. Then a nice cigar in the hot tub oh today will be a delight indeed.”

For all the things a woman is judged for during pregnancy, consuming artificial dyes isn’t typically at the top of the list. The most commonly talked about foods to avoid are those that could be contaminated with bacteria or heavy metals such as soft cheeses, unpasteurized drinks (milk, juice, apple cider), raw eggs, raw fish, pate and meat spreads, and processed meats. Other foods or drinks to avoid aren’t exclusively bad. Caffeine can be consumed in moderation and some artificial sweeteners are okay.

That being said, pregnant women live all along the diet spectrum from uber conservative to crazy liberal. More often than not, careful discretion, advice from an OBGYN, and biology covers what is okay to consume during pregnancy.

“Every mom – and every queasy tummy – is different. What spells relief to one may spell P-U-K-E to another,” says Heidi Murkoff, co-author of What to Expect When You’re Expecting, to Parents.com.

Because some women find themselves throwing up constantly, anything that sounds appealing is typically consumed in large quantities.

“Bland, carb-rich snacks like crackers, dry cereal, and pretzels have seen many preggo gals through morning sickness, as have ice cold treats like watermelon and Popsicles,” reads the Parents.com article. “Fatty and spicy foods may upset iffy stomachs, but if you find that they work for you, by all means, go ahead and eat ’em.”

Moral of the story? If it isn’t dangerous and it will stay down, more power to you Chrissy Teigen.



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